No one is naturally gifted with the ability to forgive. Some people may be reconciled with a simple apology and act of kindness. It takes time, patience, and a learnt lesson for some people.
And then there are some of us who will never be able to let go of our anger against those who wronged us in the past.
Why do women take longer to forgive than men do after they've been wronged? it appears males can let go of grudges more easily.
It's common knowledge that women are more sensitive than males, so why is it so hard for them to forgive when they've been wronged?
Women overanalyze situations to determine their true value, whereas males are more likely to rush the gun and subsequently apologize. When one part of the puzzle doesn't fit.
This is particularly true of women and their capacity for forgiving. As women, why do we forgive other men more easily than we forgive our own kind?
The error was his. He had been drinking heavily. It was an accident; he hadn't planned it that way. Because of us, he committed suicide.
Is it the widespread stereotype that guys are dimwits? We understand that they are still learning from their mistakes, therefore we are lenient with them.
Do we pity them because of their plight? They didn't realize it at the time, but they'll hopefully learn their lesson.
Or maybe we're just that desperate. In order to keep them in our life, we forgive their transgressions because we fear being alone and lonely without them.
There's really no good explanation for why she screwed us up, and why our resentment of her persists despite the passage of time.
She was plotting against me. She's such a shrew. She delights in my failure. She has a bad attitude.
Is it because females are expected to behave a certain way that we find it hard to forgive them? This hidden understanding that we should be supporting one another .
No woman can be trusted since they are all Regina George from "Mean Girls." Or maybe it's the knowledge that you're just one among millions of other ladies in the world.
If we can go on to better companions after dealing with a female who is attempting to bring us down, then why not?
Forgiveness isn't something to be handed out carelessly, but neither should it be denied to someone who has made genuine efforts to make amends.
We all need the ability to put ourselves in the other's shoes in order to understand their perspective, since we've all been in the wrong before.
At the very least, give yourself a moment to assess whether or not you're overreacting. In fact, it's preferable to question, "Will this really affect my life a year from now?"
If you answered yes, it's usually best to spend some time apart to reevaluate whether or not you want them back in your life. If you answered "no," then maybe it's time to forgive and let the past be the past.
Don't allow bitterness be a weight you have to bear; instead, lighten your burden by forgiving those who have wronged you.